You know you’ve been single way too long when you wake up every morning with a dog, a remote and a bag of chips laying beside you.
One day I decided to search out one of those online dating sites. I tried that for a while, but I only met a bunch of really creepy dudes! I was frustrated and talked to one of my closest friends, an older gal, Henrietta. She asked me, “Have you ever looked in the Bible?” Being the smart alec I am, I responded by stating all those guys are dead. I’m looking for someone who is at least alive! She called me silly and we both laughed.
Later that evening she sent a message containing some scripture. It was 1 Corinthians 7:8-9. Verse 8, now to the unmarried and the widows I say it is good for them to stay unmarried as I do. 7:9, but if they cannot control themselves, they should marry for it is better to marry than burn with passion. I shot back a text saying; how’s that going to help me when I am burning with passion and no man acceptable within a thousand miles?
Henrietta responded by saying that I should look at being single as a gift from God that not everybody has. She reminded me that by staying single, I have no obligation to anyone. I’m free to come and go as I please without the worry of upsetting a husband because he has other plans. Then she reminded me as well that everybody has their own calling which may or may not include marriage and brought up a very difficult relationship that I endured. Henrietta added more wisdom by reminding me of the lesson we studied in Sunday school the week before by stating there is a season for everything and it is just my time to be alone. Henrietta said this is time for me to build a relationship with God. She also text to me Mathew 6:33, which says but seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness and all these things will be added unto you.
I thought very much of what my dear friend had taken the time to talk to me about. I stopped looking to add someone to my life. I worked on my relationship with God. Once I stopped looking for a guy and focused on building a relationship with God, I found much joy and happiness. I still hope that the Lord will send someone good and kind my way. But, if he does not have that in the cards for me, I will always have the Lord to love me and his love will be enough.