I was watching a video on Youtube this morning. It was on a channel called Professor Nez. He repeated a comment that his father had said to him; “If you want to know a lot about a man, look at his children.”
Professor Nez was showing a video about former President Biden’s son Hunter. He is a good example of the point I want to make. I’m not putting Hunter down in any way. I have compassion for him. We all should. There are a lot of people who grew up to make similar mistakes as Hunter.
Professor Nez’s comment makes sense to me and I want to share my view and opinion. I’m going to a
write about former President Biden as a father just because that is who Professor Nez discussed and he is famous enough to be well known.
Did President Biden influence his son to be who he is? President Biden seems to have been involved in some inappropriate dealings as a senator. He was accused of raping a woman, and then there is a lot of issues concerning money laundering. I believe Hunter has been a naughty boy over the years. I do believe in the money laundering thing and I believe Hunter was in on it up to his elbows. Hunter seems to have exploited women, sex trafficking, tax evasion, gun issues, drugs and more. Did his dad influence him? If you compare their behaviors, I’d say so.
I know quite a few men from my area that are not of good character and their children have turned out to be just like them. My ex was raised in a two-parent household. His mom stayed at home and dad had a very good job. Dad drank and was abusive to mom. My ex is psycho. I also know a young man who had a very rough life. Because of his father, he turned out to have a lot of issues, including legal woes. The young man is struggling, but trying his best to turn his life around and learn to be the man he should be. I have a friend who had good parents who tried to do right by him. He grew up to spend a lot of years in prison for various crimes. I asked him what was up with that? He said he was just different. He doesn’t think and feel the way others do. And he is different. I spoke to a gentleman who was raised in a family with just a mother. He is a decent man, kind with morals and believes in God. He told me that the biggest influence in his life was his older brother. He did state that he lived wrong for a few years, and that he wished he’d listen to his brother sooner. I asked him what he had done. He told me he used to get in some fights and wouldn’t back down.
Then, there is Professor Nez. He was influenced by his dad and the comment he made proves that.
So after careful consideration, I have formed the opinion that your fathers can and do influence who you become by the way they have raised you. So, what are men teaching their sons? I don’t think they’re teaching them at all. A father’s influence is important. Dads are supposed to teach men how to be men. Out of the 4 grown men I spoke of, only one turned out to be of good character and he was raised by his mother and influenced by his brother.
I do believe young men can overcome bad parenting, influence and neglect though. They can choose whether or not to allow that influence from their father to define them as adults and as fathers. When you turn 18, you become a legal adult. You gotta take a look in the mirror and decide whether you were influenced improperly by your father. If the answer is yes, then you have to decide if it’s worth putting the hard work into yourself to become a better man. It’s part of loving yourself.